HAPPINESS IS AN INSIDE JOB

Let’s not go through life believing what others say and do is about us. Let’s practice detaching from taking things personally, so that we find freedom in the place where we don’t have trigger reactions and emotional responses to someone else’s monkeys. 

We hear this all the time, but have you been able to successfully incorporate ownership for your feelings and reactions? Or do you give that power away? Who dictates your happiness?

I grew up with people telling me I’m sensitive. It’s true, I am. However, it’s not a bad thing. I’m sensitive to the energy around me. I easily fall into the role of empath. Those of you who have also been called sensitive, you get it. It is quite beautiful how we can hold space for others. The trick for us is to learn how to hold it and see and love others without taking on their energy. It’s in the highest good for all and the ultimate self care, that we learn and embrace tools and beliefs of protection, intention and boundaries. Us sensitive souls are extremely susceptible to taking credit for another’s stuff and taking it to heart. 

Remember this: You are not responsible for another's happiness and they are not responsible for yours. If you're acting unhinged, it is about YOU. If someone else is acting that way, it is about them. Yes, you are crazy powerful and can make shit happen, you are a limitless being with untapped potential. YOU are creating YOUR experience. You are not creating someone else's experience and they are not creating yours. 

In the guidelines for all of my online coaching programs, I include this, "Own Your Triggers: If you are triggered by me, participants, content or the soulwork, ask yourself why. Our triggers are here to teach us, so that we can learn and grow. Everything is happening for us, not to us. So if you are struggling with something outside of yourself know there is a reason. Stay curious." Triggers = Teachers. 

With certain relationships, it’s easier for me to fall back into taking things personally. I have not mastered this everywhere in life yet, but I am working on it. I look at my dynamic with my sister or my boyfriend, for example, I see that I still very often have that emotional response. I get triggered. I forget it isn’t about me. I fall into victim mode more easily. Then I remember and I take back my power. With time and practice, I know it will continue to become more natural to separate myself from the emotional response. Just as I have done in other areas of my life. In some areas, it has become even easy. I don't take it personally if someone doesn't like me, agree with me, want to work with me or be my friend. I'm ok with it. 

I love the reminders, they always come at the perfect divine time. Even in hindsight they can help us release the hold from earlier conversations and situations. We are able to look back, thank the trigger, receive the lesson and cut the cord. We then find ourselves empowered and closer to the embodiment of freedom. 

What happens when your value isn't determined by how others treat you? What happens when your happiness isn't determined by anyone else's mood or opinions? What if you are able to separate their stuff from your stuff? How would it feel to claim ownership of all your feelings, actions and reactions? 

Tell me, do you get it? Is this something you’re working on too?

Big Hugs, Sara

"I claim my power now.
You don't decide how I feel, act and react.
I do. I always have a choice."